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The Escape. Can You Change Your Look and Free Your Identity with a Haircut?

3/25/2013

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    My escape from the world of Norse gods began with a haircut. It landed me in a fictional landscape of comic book heroes.
    “OH MY GOD!” a sixteen-year-old high school student yelled when she saw me on Monday morning. “You aren’t Thor anymore! You look like the hulk!” she screamed so loud I was sure the entire school could hear. “Or a huge version of Mr. Calhoun,” she said nonchalantly, and then moved on.

    My recent haircut, although it was quite a change, got me thinking of (and was actually inspired by) the question: why is it that we tie up so much of our identity in how we look?

    I decided to grow my hair out immediately after finishing my football career. The main reason? So that I wouldn’t look like a football player anymore. I was tired of having the identity of a football player, and I wanted a fresh start. The easiest way for me to get away from the prejudice (yes, it is found on the Brown University campus somewhere) I found against football players was to change my look. Unfortunately, my giant frame and turkey-burger calves weren’t going to change. So my hair was an easy option. The other reason was simply because I was afraid I was soon to go bald, so I thought “I might as well enjoy hair while I have it!”

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The good old football player look.
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The "turkey burgers"
    Well, nearly five years later, my hair was still long, and that had become part of my identity. It identified me as a hippy, an environmentalist, an adventurer, a caveman, a mad scientist, and a myriad of other personas. I realized that I had become attached to my hair because it was tied to that personality – it had become a part of me.
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Eh, so maybe I still looked like a bit of a football player. Hopefully the wolf poster in the background helped the whole environmentalist thing
    One of my big soapboxes in life is about exhibiting your own personality and being authentic (being your highest self) no matter what the occasion, and looking for that in others as well. I say this because I don’t want to work with someone who wears a suit to work and is mean and dumb (sorry if that came off as harsh). Instead, I want to work with someone who is passionate about what they do, smart, and exudes energy and inspiration upon others. I don’t care what they look like! I want this to be a more prominent value in our culture, so it is a battle I choose to fight.

    Well, I realized that I wanted to work on that very thing – just being me. Yes, I feel that having long hair helped me fight that battle in a way. But at the same time, I felt like it had become too much of a part of my identity and in some ways, my statement. So, I decided that I needed to work on being me no matter what I look like, so I first shaved my beard and kept a mustache. Then, I just cut the whole damn beard and all the hair, too. Damn it feels good.

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Hulk-like? Probably...
    What about your looks has become part of your personality? Do you think it affects you in a negative way at times? How can we, as a society, find a healthy balance for self-image? Let me know your story.

Just for amusement sake, here are a few funny images I found of myself. Enjoy :)

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Mustache.
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Longer Beard.
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Half-Beard
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Long Beard.
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Longest Beard
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Ouch-Beard
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6 Comments
craiglebury
3/25/2013 01:47:18 am

Awesome dude. Loved it. My Italian barber used to say every time I stood up from the chair, "you're a new man!". And why not. I like to think of it that way.

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Momma
3/25/2013 03:22:04 am

Wow! You look great! And you are wearing a tie!!

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Moose link
3/25/2013 03:28:20 am

Haha yeah I am definitely a new man. I lost 5 pounds (just in hair weight)! The previously stated fact is absolutely untrue. Nonetheless, it amused me, much like writing that article and seeing those pictures did. Thanks for enjoying it! How is training coming?

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Garebear
3/26/2013 03:23:18 am

the mustache is a good picture. it makes you look delightful

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moose link
3/26/2013 04:10:06 am

Haha I am glad you think so - it made me laugh whole-heartedly :)

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Devin Fraze link
8/24/2013 05:56:24 am

I too went under a transformation when during my first year of college I let a friend cut my hair. Well, they messed it up and to fix it I had to have it cut even more. I'd lived my entire social life with longish hair before that and I felt like an entirely different person after I got it cut. I felt (and looked I suppose) older and more mature. I've been keeping my hair short since then and having fun with the styles it affords and the fact that short hair is easy to take care of. In fact, I haven't used shampoo and condition in my hair for over 4 years now. Something no one might guess since my hair is quite clean. I merely rinse it out in the shower while happily saving the environment and the cash in my wallet. I am not sure if this would be possible with longer hair, but it's one of the many reasons why I'm glad to rock the shorter style.

Thanks for the post Moose!

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